Stand By Your Man? Don’t Be a Fool

Women, why are you standing by your man when your man is standing by another man or some woman other than you? Your husbands, your boyfriends, are on the streets. They’re not home with you and your children. What are you doing? You’re supporting them, you’re supporting the baby, and he’s supporting only his activities.

Yes, your man may be a drug dealer. When a drug dealer is outside dealing drugs, he’s also dealing other women. What is he bringing home to you? Sexually transmitted diseases. You have to go get checked because he had an extramarital affair or unprotected sexual relations with another person and might have brought a nasty surprise home to you. Here you have your little daughter, or your little son; you should be telling your man, “This is your son. This is your daughter. Look what you’re doing to your children. Your children are being bought up without the help of both a father and a mother.” Your children only have you as a mother, and you continue the cycle of giving these men babies.

The prisons are filling up. More and more black men are going to jail for weapons violations, drugs, and many other things, including lack of child support. It was so nice to see published in the paper the names of those who did not support their children and the amounts they owed. Yes, they need to arrest these men, but instead of putting them in jail, put them to work. If you have to put them in jail, put them in for the weekend every week, so maybe they won’t make another baby. Yes, it’s so easy to make a baby, but raising a baby is the hardest thing to do, especially today when children need to compete, especially our children. Black children need to compete against white children who are in much wealthier communities and have more services. Black man, you are doing a disservice by making a baby and leaving the rest up to Mom. I think you should be sterilized. Someone should make you impotent because you feel that your penis is the only thing that makes you a male. I feel that your penis is making you less of a man. Why? Because you’re making children but not raising children. You’re being incarcerated while the poor black woman is out here struggling.

How many black women have had to quit college because they had a baby? So you had a baby and you had just one or two years of college. I hate to see you working in a nursing home or taking care of someone else’s retarded children. And you have to put in hours and hours of work, getting next to nothing because you have to take care of a child. Then you have to beg your mother to please let you come back home because you can’t afford the rent and the baby. You ought to be ashamed. You have more education than your man, but giving him a baby doesn’t make him educated. What you need to do is force your sons to stay in school, force your sons to get a trade, force your sons to be men. Manhood doesn’t come to a boy because he has been to jail.

I am not a religious person, but I now see more Muslin women on the streets. They’re wrapping themselves up for their men, just barely showing their faces. They’re hiding their bodies and their pretty faces, but what are their men hiding? They’re not hiding anything, because they can have more than one woman. If they choose, they can have three or four of them. Women, don’t you want a man who is just yours and not a communal relationship? Get a hold of yourself and understand that your brain is bigger than theirs. Look in the jails and see how many men have come out Muslims. Most of our black ones have learned the religion from being in jail or from having been on drugs. Yes, religion is and can be a way out, but I don’t like how Muslims suppress women. I feel that women have rights.

The girls are now putting their pants below their butts too, but their backsides are so fat. Who in the hell wants to look at that? They may think it’s cute, all these big ripples and rolls. They just shake it, and if somebody wants it, all they have to do is say “I hit it.” Then they hit it and quit it. You don’t want that, girls. You want somebody who’s going to hit it and stay there with you to make a life with you.

Who wants to think of big fat thighs wrapped around them for the rest of their lives, trapping them in a hole that’s so deep that they’d need tow rope to get out? Come on, women, look at yourselves. You’re not holding your man because you’re not taking care of yourself. You’ve got to get in shape and look like something other than a mountain. You need to have more pride. Get rid of some of that hair and go natural. Be beautiful.

I may be not of your Hip-Hop generation, young America. I may not understand your principles, but I believe you can do well following some of mine. I believe in looking good, keeping in shape, being educated, and being a proud black man, because then I too can look in a white man’s face and say, “I’m as educated as you.” You can call me a nigger; you can say, “Look at that black man.” But this black man is an educated one, and I’d like to see more of our children be educated. I had a mother and a father, and they made sure that I got an education. In this life, you need to get a good education or learn a skilled trade. That is what will get us out of this economic depression. Black men, wake up. Black women, wake up.