Tired of His Cheating A--!

I recently ended a six-year, live-in relationship with the man I though I was going to marry. I ended the relationship because I was tired of being emotionally abused by this man's constant cheating. On occasion he's said that men have stronger sex drives than women and this is why men need to be able to have more than one woman. I've heard this "biological imperative" excuse before and think it's a cop-out. Now, he doesn't want to see me move on with my life and has begun to stalk me. Really, he's done nothing overt, just constantly showed up at places where I go. What I want to know is, do I have enough reason to take out a restraining order against him? What I have is more of a sense of possible danger from him, more so than concrete proof he is definitely a threat to me. What do you think?

A: Your legal question is beyond the scope of my expertise. You can contact your local law enforcement, however, and ask someone to advise you whether or not you have enough cause to obtain a restraining order against your former live-in partner.

You may want to consider reading the book Violent Relationships—Battering and Abuse Among Adults, by Formation Plus. It has some really good information about restraining orders. And, by the way, your ex-boyfriend's behaviors are both overt and unhealthy, especially since you've ended the relationship.

Stay alert, take precautions and investigate that restraining order.