My gay girlfriend tried to hit on me

Q: I have a lesbian girlfriend who I have known forever. Lately, she’s been flirting with me, which makes me uncomfortable. I am not a lesbian. How can I let her know that her flirtatious behavior is unwanted without jeopardizing our friendship?

A: Honey, the friendship is already in jeopardy, unless you are comfortable and happy with the way things are now. You need to sit down and talk to your friend and tell her exactly how you feel about her unwanted sexual advances. Make sure that she understands that your feelings have nothing to do with her sexual orientation. It doesn’t matter whether or not you are a lesbian; you don’t want to be sexually harassed by anyone. If she wants to end the friendship, you haven’t lost anything but the friendship of someone who violates your trust and has no respect for personal boundaries.